My Marriage Certificate Trio’s kid left a drawing for me on my desk after a long weekend visit. She’s 8, and creative, thoughtful, and kind. And sensitive. I’m sure it’s a pretty standard message for her age, but I was touched by her support of me … and the other meaning I found. Fello your…
When he changes Sanne and she’s crying or fussing during it, my amazing husband always repeats “new diape, new you, new diape, new you, new diape, new you.” It’s hilarious and … true. Lots is written about changing perspective, but sometimes we forget how easy it is to change clothes or place or accessories and…
About 4 weeks in to paternity leave, my husband took a call from a recruiter. I was home, but he was in charge of the baby while I took a bath or stared aimlessly at my closet or something. The baby started crying, and this man said: “I’m sorry, that’s my newborn crying. I’ll call…
When the baby is screaming crying, I hug her and kiss her face and ask her “what do you need?” I hold her closer, knowing innately that this isn’t about me, it’s about her. She can’t even tell me what she needs, and I give her this grace … or maybe because she can’t tell…
I have a tendency to fight. I am not confrontational by any stretch—one of the greatest joys of marrying my husband is him making all phone calls to vendors on our behalf—but because I have long been a Woman in Business and experienced the Challenge of being a Woman in Business, I have developed a…
New beginning of what? No one knows! While many single people lament dating, I loved it. It’s just so fun: you never know what will happen next! You never know who you might meet! You never know who you will swipe on, and how that date will go, and if your next great love affair…
2025 is undoubtedly going to be surprising. Many of the things that happened late this year in 2024 (NOT peaceful things despite my 2024 word of peace) are setting 2025 up to be a doozy. What will happen?! NO ONE KNOWS! Least of all me! Which is fun and exciting and terrifying and requires a…
As I’ve written before, Shelby usually starts yoga class asking how you want to feel. Often, I think “calm” or “peace” or “wrung out” or “strong” but recently, a new one popped up: free to feel. When we adopted Bob, one of my favorite ways the terrible handlers described him is “he has big feelings.”…
Arbitrary or no, there are things about forty that just make a person want to achieve by this birthday. In my case, it’s not always specific goals, more like a notion of “when I’ve grown up”—and FORTY is undeniably grown, right—I will have done these things. And, maybe I will have. I am getting married…
Out of nowhere, I tore my plantar fascia playing football–pushing off the line of scrimmage–last Wednesday. I felt a pop in the arch of my foot, and knew something was torn but didn’t even know you COULD tear a plantar fascia, particularly not one that gave you no warning and previously did not have pain.…