As I’ve written before, Shelby usually starts yoga class asking how you want to feel. Often, I think “calm” or “peace” or “wrung out” or “strong” but recently, a new one popped up: free to feel. When we adopted Bob, one of my favorite ways the terrible handlers described him is “he has big feelings.”…
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40 Under 40
Arbitrary or no, there are things about forty that just make a person want to achieve by this birthday. In my case, it’s not always specific goals, more like a notion of “when I’ve grown up”—and FORTY is undeniably grown, right—I will have done these things. And, maybe I will have. I am getting married…
Again
Out of nowhere, I tore my plantar fascia playing football–pushing off the line of scrimmage–last Wednesday. I felt a pop in the arch of my foot, and knew something was torn but didn’t even know you COULD tear a plantar fascia, particularly not one that gave you no warning and previously did not have pain.…
2 0 2 3 : L O V E
The most important. More than water, food, shelter, we humans need love. AND I HAVE IT. And I want to keep it. And grow it. I want to love bigger and harder and more and more openly! Last year was incredibly BRIGHT. 2022 was challenging but somehow not, as it opened my heart to SO…
39 Things to Continue Before 39
39 things I want to continue doing before my 39th birthday (NOT in order): loving skiing happy relationship supporting others enjoying max time outside so many friends neph neighbros saying no time with dad time with mama rest lifting the body I like moving through space neat house volleyball hot cowboy pool climbing dinner parties…
Obituary | Feel Grateful Friday 072922
Nali’s memorial tonight was more than I ever expected. My family and friends are amazing. It was low key and fun and celebratory and perfect. My friends that couldn’t be here sent the perfect accoutrement: a shirt with her peeping out the pocket, an L-paw-print-N-necklace … I felt so loved. Working through writing an obituary:…
Trauma Recovery Report
TRR! That’s what it felt like when my achilles ripped. But TRR is also a new series on this blog documenting my recovery moving forward, not in the banal I-had-surgery-a-week-later way, but in the emotional, psychological, physical way all of us deal with trauma. I wrote a whole boring intro, but let’s focus on the…
2022 is the Year of Bright
Last year was incredible. It just might have been the most I’ve ever lived up to my word: Grace. I went through some shit, sure, and ended the year on a decidedly un-graceful note with an achilles rupture and subsequent surgery, but taken on the whole, I did a good job of giving myself grace,…
Site’s Down | Feel Good Sunday 112121
Y’all. It has been a minute. This here blog has been up for close to 14 years, since 12/27/07. It has never been down for more than hour, and yet we have just gone through over two weeks of an outage that I couldn’t prioritize finding the time to fix. And we were just starting…
38 Reframes After 37 But Before 38
As I sit down to think about what I want from the coming birthday year, I’m struck by how happy I am right now. How much growth I’ve been through personally in the past year-and-a-half and how much I’ve owned who I am and who I want to be. One of the ways I’ve been…